Play It Cool with Your New Guy
Ah – love is in the air. What’s more exciting than being in the throes of a new relationship?
Whether you’re a teenager or a 40+-something recently divorced or widowed, a blossoming relationship can be consuming at any age. But no matter how good things are going, you may find yourself wondering, “Are we really compatible?” “How do I know when I should consider him my boyfriend?” or “What happens when he discovers my flaws?”
If this sounds like you, read on.
It may save you from sabotaging the potential of lasing love. Plus: Are you marriage material?
Whether you’re a teenager or a 40+-something recently divorced or widowed, a blossoming relationship can be consuming at any age. But no matter how good things are going, you may find yourself wondering, “Are we really compatible?” “How do I know when I should consider him my boyfriend?” or “What happens when he discovers my flaws?”
If this sounds like you, read on.
It may save you from sabotaging the potential of lasing love. Plus: Are you marriage material?
Confidence is Key
You think you’re the only one who’s scared your flaws will be “found out” and accordingly be dumped?
He’s thinking the same thing too! But the difference between him and you is that he’s not going out of his way to make sure his flaws are kept hidden like you are.
He’s thinking the same thing too! But the difference between him and you is that he’s not going out of his way to make sure his flaws are kept hidden like you are.
You might constantly seek validation from your boyfriend or distrust his every step. But nobody wants to date a desperately insecure person. Confidence is much more attractive.
Accept that you have flaws.
Instead of focusing on what’s wrong with you, start focusing on determining whether you see your boyfriend as a possible marriage partner.
You’ll inevitably discover traits or quirks you’ll find endearing or annoying.
If you’ve found a man you like on every level, you might have your blinders on!
Instead of focusing on what’s wrong with you, start focusing on determining whether you see your boyfriend as a possible marriage partner.
You’ll inevitably discover traits or quirks you’ll find endearing or annoying.
If you’ve found a man you like on every level, you might have your blinders on!
To have a healthy and honest relationship, the foundation should be built on being real with the other person – flaws included.
Slow and Steady…
Love has no time limit, so why rush and force a relationship along? Doing so could sabotage the potential for lasting love.
You won’t ever really know someone from a couple of dates or a couple months of dating.
Don’t rush into something too serious, especially if you’re particularly young or recently single. Slow and steady wins the race to a lasting marriage.
If we’ve jumped the gun on the whole marriage thing, and you just want to know if you’re entitled to call him your boyfriend after a few weeks or months of dating, ask him.
Sometimes it’s difficult to determine your status, especially considering the way “dating” has changed over the years.
Sometimes it’s difficult to determine your status, especially considering the way “dating” has changed over the years.
Maybe you’ve already each committed, but both of you don’t want to risk being turned down and looking like a fool in un-requited love by asking.
If he wants to be considered committed, he won’t be afraid to say so.
A solid relationship is based on being able to talk, and if you feel like you can’t discuss your feelings with your guy, maybe you know deep down that you’re already moving too fast. Or maybe you just know he isn’t the right one for you, period.
There comes a certain level of naturalness and ease with a new relationship on the right tracks.
Be honest with each other every step of the way of your new relationship.
If he wants to be considered committed, he won’t be afraid to say so.
A solid relationship is based on being able to talk, and if you feel like you can’t discuss your feelings with your guy, maybe you know deep down that you’re already moving too fast. Or maybe you just know he isn’t the right one for you, period.
There comes a certain level of naturalness and ease with a new relationship on the right tracks.
Be honest with each other every step of the way of your new relationship.
Go with the Flow
The flow of a new relationship should either be a natural progression or naturally going nowhere.
Trust that it will go in the direction it’s supposed to.
Trust that it will go in the direction it’s supposed to.
Have fun! There’s no need to take things so seriously.
Your gut should tell you when it’s time to take bigger steps.
Take the example of meeting the folks. If you’ve only been dating casually for a month, it’s probably not time for such a big step. If you both show interest about meeting the family or friends, then go for it.
If your gut doesn’t tell you what to do, then your common sense will. If you want a formal commitment from your guy but he’s unwilling to give you one, move on.
The bottom line is that your mind and heart will tell you what’s right for you, so listen to both!
If they’re telling you two different things, trust your mind first – it’s more capable of reason.
Good luck on finding lasting love.
Good luck on finding lasting love.
Are You Marriage Material?
If you’re one of the many people who are dating, there’s a good chance that you’re sizing your partner up for a future trip down the aisle. But not everyone is primed for the little white chapel, maybe not even you. Find out if you’re destined for the house with the white picket fence and 2.5 kids, or if you’ll be stuck in the bachelor(ette) pad for good. Take this marriage material quiz.
By The LifeScript Editorial Staff
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