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Getting Yours Once you've got the basics committed to muscle memory, you can put more of your attention to getting off while you're giving head? Really!

Worthy of Worship Open veneration of the penis was practiced throughout history -- right up to the point where it was repressed in Christianity. We in the West erect more subtle monuments to the male organ, like the Washington Monument, but we all see the message: male power.How do you practice phallus worship? Make love to his penis. Not him, his penis. Every man secretly wants to experience a woman in thrall to the power of his sexual organ. Venerate Your ManIn that moment, he becomes his penis, because your passion is pure -- not dependent on his money or status or good looks. (Sometimes it's the best part of him, isn't it? I've had more than one intense personal relationship where I loved the penis -- but the man, not so much. I call it being dick-matized.)But trust me: Make love to his penis alone and the man, its life support system, will love you for that. Really, there is no better way of reducing the stress and tension of daily life than taking a penis into your mouth and sucking. It's the big girl's pacifier.Perfect BJ PrepFirst: Get down on your knees, grasp that big boy and look at it. Have you ever really done that? A penis is a beautiful thing. Each one is a different work of art. Second: Pay close attention to how the penis responds as you lick and suck and stroke. The obvious mouth moves -- sucking the head, swirling your tongue around the corona, strumming the frenulum -- always work. But that penis has its special little places. Find them. One of my all-time favorite organs had this spot on the underside of the shaft, about a third of the way down. I could make it come by sucking there. If you need some inspiration, check out my technique, The Basic Black Dress of Blow Jobs. How to Get Yours While You're Down There

I call this the Wild Card Chakra Trick. Chakra number five, located at the throat, is said to be the chakra of creative expression. Some women can reach orgasm while performing fellatio because there really is a physiological connection between the throat and the vagina. If you are one of those women, this is your extra-sexual-energy zone. You feel the direct connection between mouth/throat and genitals. There is a quick way to find out if you have the potential to come while giving a blowjob. Suck the head of his penis and pay attention to how your throat is responding. If it seems to quiver or vibrate faintly in time with your sucking, you can do this.As you are sucking, breathe deeply and rhythmically. Imagine that your breath is a circle of fire inhaled into your nostrils, filling your mouth and throat and exhaled through your genitals. Flex your PC muscle in time with your breathing and sucking. (Do you practice Kegel exercises? A strong PC is required.) Make intense eye contact with him as he nears ejaculation.You can also make it happen if you learn The Orgasm Loop, my no-fail, even no-hands orgasm technique. It's a thrilling way to come -- especially if your orgasm and his happen simultaneously.

Way back in the day when I began researching sex techniques, I tested blow job directions in many books. Some didn’t give enough information. Some gave too much. As the years went on, sexperts gave more and more elaborate directions to every technique, including blow jobs. (The idea was that books had to promise 24 hour orgasms, 1001 sex techniques and five pages of directions for a basic hand job to out-sell the competition.) I developed my own technique, the Basic Black Dress of Blow Jobs. It meets my criteria for elegance and simplicity. You can also dress it up to suit your taste and style.
And now, from THE SEX BIBLE FOR WOMEN, my Memorial Day gift to you--possibly my best sex tip ever.

*HOW TO BE A GREAT LOVER*
Kiss and lick his inner thighs while pulling down ever so slightly on his scrotum. With your finger pads, scratch his testicles. Put his balls carefully in your mouth one at a time. Roll them around. Then, again ever so gently, pull them down with your mouth.
While you’re attending to his balls, run your fingers lovingly up and down the shaft of his penis.
Get into a comfortable position, either kneeling at his side on the bed or at a right angle to his body or kneeling between his legs. Or you can bring him down to the edge of the bed and kneel on the floor. Wet your lips and be sure that your lips cover your teeth. Run your tongue around the head of his penis to moisten it.

Hold the base of his penis firmly in one hand. With the other hand, you can form a circle of your thumb and forefinger--what sex expert Lou Paget calls “the ring and the seal” to elongate your mouth and prevent him from going in further than you would like. Use that hand in a twisting motion as you fellate him. Or, if his erection is not firm, you can use both hands (wrapped around the shaft) in an upward twist stroke.

Circle the head with your tongue in a swirling motion, then work your tongue in long strokes up and down his shaft. Now back to the head.

Follow the ridge of the corona with your tongue while working the shaft with your hands, the penis sandwiched between them--unless, of course, you want to keep that ring and seal in place.
Strum the frenulum with your tongue. Lick the raphe.
Make eye contact with him from time to time.

Do at least ten or twenty seconds of this showy move: Repeatedly pull his penis into your mouth, then push it out, using suction--while keeping that tongue in motion.
Go back to the head. Swirl your tongue around it. Tongue the corona. Suck the head. Repeat, repeat, repeat.

Follow his lead if he pulls back from stimulation. He knows that he will reach orgasm sooner than he would like if you don’t stop. Take his hand and put it against your vagina. Let him stimulate you until his excitement subsides a bit.

But if you want him to come, apply gentle pressure with thumb or finger to his perineum.
Don’t feel badly that you can’t deep throat his penis without gagging. Concentrate attention during fellatio on the head of his penis and the first third of the shaft while not neglecting his perineum. He won’t notice or care that you don’t take the entire shaft into your mouth. (Lou’s ring and seal trick fools him into thinking you are taking in more than you are.)
And if you want to give him something really special, fellate him to orgasm. If you can do this comfortably, when he’s near ejaculation, take his pelvis in both hands and rock him toward you so that he goes deeper into your mouth. If you want to add a pearl choker to that basic black dress, let him come on your face or breasts--or swallow.

Swallowing
Swallowing is not really difficult--and he will love you for doing it. A man feels totally accepted and loved when a woman swallows his semen. You can control the depth of oral penetration via the ring and seal and influence the timing by pressing his perineum.
Position yourself so that his ejaculate will shoot straight down your throat.

*TIP*
An easy way of doing this: Lie on your back with your head off the bed. Your mouth and throat will form a smooth line. Have him straddle your face for the elegant finish to a perfect blow job.
Anyone can go down on a guy, wrap their lips around his penis and move around a little. In fact, for most men, that is enough. However, if you really want a guy to enjoy your blowjobs, extend your reportoire to include the following specials. Deep ThroatPrized among all men, Deep Throat is the ability of their partner to deep throat. The size of your partner's penis may determine whether it's even possible for you, but most women can learn to "swallow" the penis. Once you get the tip past your gag reflex, it's actually quite easy. If you are able to do it, for sure he'll start treat you differently. As a bonus, if he ejaculates while the tip is in your throat, you don't even taste it!Cumming CircleStick his erect penis inside your mouth as though you were going to suck on it, but leave your lips lose around the length of the cock. Instead, wet your lips and start a circular motion with your head, keep your teeth away from the cock by covering them with your lips. Rotate clockwise and then when he is getting used to that rotate counter clockwise, in a slow and steady movement, make certain that your lips touch the coronal ridge over and over again. This, done correctly, can trigger multiple Orgasms for your man causing him to have the time of his life.Hitting the Prostate (Male P-Spot)Often called the "million dollar spot" on a man, the prostate is the gland which pumps out much of the ejaculate. By stimulating it during oral sex, you're not only driving him to an incredible orgasm, you'll also greatly increase the force and volume of his ejaculation. Many men report experiencing full body orgasms this way.The prostate is located midway between the base of the scrotum and the anus. You can stimulate it with your finger by simply rubbing on this area or you can reach it anally by inserting one finger into his anus (only about one knuckle deep) and curving the tip back towards the penis. If a man has never experienced this type of stimulation, watch out - he's likely to blow in a hurry! For those who have, the experience is unlike any other. For further information about this technique see The Male P-Spot.TeabaggingPosition your head directly below his scrotum. Gently take one ball into your mouth and roll your tongue around it. Move to the next ball and repeat. Then allow him to alternately dip one ball, then the other then both into your mouth. Each time, use your tongue to flick the balls around a little. Men vary greatly in how much of this they can take, but some absolutely love it. Using the HandsThere's nothing better for a guy than to have one or both hands around the base of his cock pumping away as you suck on the tip. Start by caressing his inner thighs while you're sucking on the tip. As you go deeper and deeper down the shaft, begin to caress his balls. Be careful here, as some men are very sensitive. Almost all of them will enjoy it in some form or another. Try using one hand to pump the bottom third of his cock as you suck away at the top part. Pretend that you're using your hand to milk every last drop out of him. Spit ChainAllow some spit to dangle from your mouth to his penis as you move your head away from it. The spit will create a chain from your lips down to the tip of the penis. As the spit begins to settle, lurch downward a slurp it around the penis. The added lubrication will allow your tongue and lips to glide around the shaft, creating an incredible surge in pleasure for him. This technique is regarded as "nasty", but nasty in a good way. Guys will do anything to get a nasty blowjob.Pole DancePosition the top side of your tongue a few inches under his hot spot, spread your tongue wide, and stick it completely to the erect cock so the curve of your tongue completely adheres to his curve of his lovely cock. Move your tongue slowly toward the head of his cock but not on his hot spot you found and unless he goes crazy when you do, twist and turn deliberately as you lick around his cock like you’re a rope wrapped around him, using long and rotating movements. While doing this, you can reach around and play with his testicles, his perineum, even his ass, but you want him to focus on your tongue and finger play as you move up and down, with varying speed, three times. Pass over his hot spot like you don’t know it’s there.Pulling TriggerTo take him further over the edge before climax, pull your mouth slightly back while using your hands to keep him stimulated, and as you pull back, extend only the tip of your pointed tongue to lightly explore the hot spot you found. Use your pointed tongue to explore nearby areas and experiment with different pressures and strokes until you’ve found the spot where he jerks like he’s being electrocuted. Then, using just your pointy tip of your tongue, give super-light, swift flicks to that area as you massage his balls.Do you know some other technique ?