Sunday, August 12, 2012

10 Flirting Tips


Whether you're making your way back into the single life, want to be more comfortable talking to potential suitors, or just need to add some spice to your relationship, a few simple flirting tips should put you on the road to romance...Flirting can add a little fun and spark to any relationship.

Although many people and websites make flirting sound like a sophisticated art, it's really just a guide to help break the ice, loosen up a bit and maybe even be a little suggestive.

Don’t forget that most guys don't read body language and "signs" as much as women do.

While it may feel as though your flirting is giving clear signals, he may not be interpreting them.

Just remember that guys don’t always pick up on subtlety; he may simply be missing out on the reason you are always so friendly.

Here are 10 simple flirting tips to make your efforts a success:
1. Make it fun. Don’t put pressure on yourself to go up to someone at a party, social event, or anywhere else with the idea that you are going to impress him or get him to ask you out.

Many men approach women with the goal of getting their phone number, but this doesn’t make a whole lot of sense, either.

Just because someone looks great doesn’t mean they are great.

Make the goal be the flirting, and let it be fun.

2. Don’t forget to smile. Not only does smiling make you look more attractive, it gives you that twinkle in your eye and it makes you and anyone you are smiling at feel relaxed.

3. Make eye contact. Of course, there is a difference between making eye contact and staring.

You certainly do not want to stare at the person you are flirting with; you simply want him or her to be aware that you are noticing, and noting this person's words and actions.
Studies have shown that strangers of the opposite sex feel some sort of connection after staring at each other directly in the eye.

You can use this anomaly to your advantage.

Just look the person you are flirting with directly in the eye and make him or her feel more connected to you.

4. Don’t be afraid to initiate a conversation. Guys love it when women initiate a conversation.

Guys get just as nervous and worked up as women when it comes to flirting and meeting new people, so guys appreciate and notice the rare occasion when a woman makes the first move.

This is especially effective after there has been across-the-room eye contact.

5. Don’t take yourself too seriously. It's a great characteristic to have a sense of humor.

It shows a lot of character when you are able to laugh at yourself.
Also, that cute guy you have pulled aside won’t feel he's under a microscope if you show that you have a sense of humor.

Besides, who doesn’t love to laugh?

6. Pay attention to how you look before going into a potential flirting situation. Men are much more visual than women and may be more tempted by outer beauty.

By paying attention to your appearance and using these flirting tips you should be able to attract the attention of any guy in the room.

Of course, you should dress appropriately for whatever setting you are in, but paying attention to the small details of your appearance should get you noticed.

7. Get into situations where you can flirt. It doesn't matter how well you master these flirting tips if your life revolves around reality TV and enjoying your hermitage.

Find a way to meet people who are your type.
8. Ask questions. Everyone loves to talk about themselves, and asking open-ended questions provides an easy way for others to open up and for you to find out more about the person.

The question-asking should be balanced, though. The conversation should not turn into an interview.

9. Don’t underestimate the power of body language. Experts estimate that 85% of communication is non-verbal.

If you do not believe this, you should try muting your television and flipping through the channels for a minute or two. You will probably get the idea of what is happening on every show without hearing a single word.

Considering this, you cannot afford to overlook the power of body language.

There are a lot of movements and gestures to indicate you are interested in the person you're talking to.

Playing with your hair or biting your bottom lip are attractive gestures to guys and give them encouragement, whether they realize it or not.
Standing or sitting a little closer to the other person can change the dynamic of the conversation.

Looking over your shoulder and making eye contact with a guy is another way to let him know you are interested, as well as checking to see if he is enjoying the view.
A light touch on the forearm or shoulder can be a big move forward for a guy.

Keep in mind that in western society, it is typically more acceptable for women to hug and touch than men. For this reason, a subtle touch to the forearm will get most guys’ attention.

10. Be confident. The other nine flirting tips require confidence, and confidence is extremely attractive.

Being confident means being secure with who you are.

Having confidence allows you to be more relaxed when you encounter someone you want to flirt with.
With these ten flirting tips, you should be prepared to jump in, have fun and meet someone new.

Of course, you will want to adapt these flirting tips to your personality. Just remember to be yourself, and you'll be sure to bump into the person your dreams sooner or later.
By Jay Patterson

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