Do You Make These Mistakes?

Guys in my restaurant's bar make the same mistakes every night.

Mistake # 4. Waiting to get drunk before talking to women.

This is probably the biggest mistake that guys make every night, at every club, everywhere. The best time to talk to women is actually right when the night begins. Why? When it’s still early, women are just arriving usually in a good mood, no one’s approached them yet; it’s like a blank slate. It’s your best chance to make what I call a little connection. This is where you just make one fun or witty comment to someone and then get back to your friends.

If it turns into a conversation then go with it, but it’s mainly a way to create a little connection of familiarity between you and someone you don’t know.What most guys do, is they stare at the women they want to talk to all night until they’ve had enough drinks, then go over and try to force a full on conversation. It’s usually not pretty.

Instead, it’s a lot easier to make a bunch of little connections with women, then sit back and watch. The women that are interested in you will come stand near you or they will look at you and smile when they walk by. Even if they don’t, it will be a lot easier to wave them over and start a conversation with them if you’ve already talked before.